Monthly Archives: February 2025

One way to reduce crime and violence, yet Moms for Liberty & MAGA aren’t on board. In fact, they’re against it.

Do you know what violent criminals have in common? A lack of empathy.

There have been studies that show empathetic people are less likely to engage in crime. Empathetic teenagers are less likely to be delinquents.

Just look at drug lords. You think drug lords and the people who work for them are empathetic? An empathetic person would be far less likely to brutally kill innocent people who got in their way.

According to various studies, empathy can be taught.  As a parent, if you want your children to grow up to be upstanding citizens—who don’t commit crimes—then teaching them empathy would probably benefit them more than going to church. Unless, of course, your church teaches empathy.

However, there are some self-professed Christians on the right who teach “The sin of empathy.”  Personally, I find that a twisted interpretation of Jesus’s teachings. But men have been twisting the word of God for centuries, for their own agenda, so I can’t be surprised.

We can debate if it’s a sin or not, but the proof is in the pudding, as they say.  People who lack empathy are more likely to commit crime.

According to one study, “The literature affirms that the low level of empathy, guilt, embarrassment, and moral reasoning displayed by violent and psychopathic criminals is strongly associated with empathy-linked brain regions that are smaller in size or less developed.”

Moms for Liberty, the infamous book banners also have an issue with teaching empathy in our schools. In fact, many books they specifically target are those that teach empathy.

It seems the MAGA trend these days is to get rid of anything remotely woke, and empathy definitely falls within the realm of woke. While MAGA proudly boasts about “woke free zones” they assume the only damage will be to marginalized groups, and since they lack empathy, they don’t care. However, they should.

Why?

Because someone they love may suffer the fallout. Take, for example, gun violence in our country. Shootings in our schools, mass shootings in our communities. They happen every week. Sometimes more frequently. We’re told the answer isn’t gun control. Some suggest we need to up our mental health in this country, but that ain’t gonna happen. Our health care in the US is dismal and the president is already talking about getting rid of ACA and cutting Medicaid, and possibly Medicare.

While it would not prevent all shootings, teaching empathy instead of forbidding it could help significantly. If you don’t believe me, look up some of the studies. Google is free.

But instead of teaching empathy, organizations like Moms for Liberty act like teaching empathy to young children in schools is no different than handing out copies of Hustler Magazine to third graders.

One woman from Moms for Liberty stated, “Not every human is deserving of my child’s empathy.”

Here is the problem with that. That human she mentioned may be a troubled and severely odd youngster in her child’s school. If the students in the school fail to show empathy toward the troubled child—some even tormenting and teasing him or her—well that’s one way to birth a school shooter.

If that mother’s child is gunned down by the troubled classmate, I’m not sure what benefit her dead child gained by withholding empathy. 

While none of us are safe from violence in this country, raising up a generation without empathy will certainly make it worse.

Notable Quotes on Empathy

Plato: “The highest form of knowledge is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world.”

Rabbi Jonathan Sacks: ” Empathy is not a lightweight, touchy-feely, add-on extra to the moral life. It is an essential element in conflict resolution. 

Thomas Nelson Bibles: “Empathy is more than an attractive personality trait. It’s an instrument of healing. Jesus understood that better than anyone.”

The True Persecutor of Christians in the USA

After I heard of Trump’s executive order aimed at eradicating “anti-Christian bias” in the federal government, I read some articles to help understand what he planned.

According to various online newspaper articles, it would involve agencies reviewing practices that try to suppress religious activities and activisms.

I then wondered, does Trump realize he is pushing a new federal policy that he in essence violated not three weeks ago?

Remember that prayer meeting with Pastor Budde where she is invited to speak at a prayer meeting? You know a prayer meeting, where people talk about their faith and religious beliefs, and they pray. They pray in the way their faith has taught them.

But after Pastor Budde basically parroted Jesus’s word (You know Jesus, the one they call Christ, the one the Christian faith is supposedly based on) Trump got all up in his feels, claimed she was out of line, not very good at her job, and attacked her online.

When someone has millions of followers on social media, and they accuse someone of committing some egregious wrong against them—as Trump did Budde—there is always a risk that some of those followers will then attack the person whom they believed wronged their hero. 

And sure enough, Pastor Budde received death threats from Trump supporters simply because she was expressing her Christian beliefs. Is Trump’s administration planning on going after those people?

Remember how we’ve been told all of our lives that many of the Christians who first came to America did so to escape religious persecution? It’s one reason we have the First Amendment, to protect American citizens from being persecuted by the government because of their religion.

You want to guess what folks were most likely to be persecuting Christians back then—those Christians who fled to this new land seeking religious freedom? Other Christians!

Quakers, Separatists, Puritans, and Catholics are all Christian, and all came to this country to avoid persecution from other Christians. Across the pond, before and after we were a country, Protestant and Catholic differences often led to bloody outcomes.

There are over 200 Christian denominations in this country. I fear Trump’s new anti-Christian bias agenda is attempting to define what it is to be Christian, and in doing so, will exclude many Christian denominations from his club. If this isn’t a clear violation of our First Amendment, I don’t know what is.

Let’s pretend for a minute that America really is a Christian nation, with no atheists, agnostics, Muslims, Jews, Hindus, Buddhists, Sikhs, Daoist, Bahai’s, Wicca, or any other religion.  Christians would still be persecuted in this country, by other Christians. Trump’s new anti-bias Christian agenda would be targeting people that aren’t “their kind of Christians,” just as it is now.

One thing about Christians, they LOVE to tell other people they are not real Christians because they don’t believe how they do.

Guess what, there are Christian religions out there that support LGBTQ communities and same sex marriage, along with abortion rights. There are Christians out there who, like Jesus, welcome the immigrant and believe in feeding the poor and helping the downtrodden. 

Right now, I can practically hear some “Christians” proclaiming those religions I just mentioned are not real Christians. Which only proves my point. 

Evangelicals often love to tell other Christians, like Catholics, Mormons, Christian Scientists, Jehovah Witnesses, and Unitarians that they are not “real” Christians.  

So Trump’s new agenda, in my opinion, is not about protecting the Christian faith, it is about redefining what Christianity is, and then prioritizing their beliefs, while persecuting the “Other Christians,” many of whom are actually practicing Jesus’s teachings.

There are politicians in this country who love to shout about a war on Christians. In my opinion, the call is coming from within the house.  Why? Because there is a loud group of Christians who, instead of spreading the word of Jesus, divide this country by spreading hate instead of love. A group that has turned empathy—one of Jesus’s most notable traits—into a sin. The number of adults identifying as Christian in this country is declining. One reason, I believe, is that they don’t want to be associated with “those” Christians.

I used to identify as Christian, but the behavior of some of the more outspoken Christians in this country has made me unwilling to be asociated with that group. It doesn’t mean I have pushed away Jesus, just the moniker Christian. And I’m not alone.

But this is nothing new. It’s my opinion Jesus’s message was hijacked for personal and political gain the moment he died on that cross. And it has been going on for centuries.

In conclusion, I strongly support our US Constitution and feel Trump’s anti-Christian policy violates the First Amendment.

Taylor Swift Hating is Just Pathetic 

The Beatles first appeared on The Ed Sullivan Show when I was in the fourth grade.  I remember the clutching of pearls by some adults regarding the length of the band members’ hair and their disdain for how emotional fans reacted to the group. I recall my fourth grade teacher telling our class the Beatles were a flash in the pan, a momentary fad, and they wouldn’t be around long. We all know how that prediction worked out.

At the time, I was a Beach Boy’s fan. My older sister, then in junior high, often played Beach Boy records in her bedroom. But the Beatles came along, and my sister started buying their albums, even our mom liked them.

While I enjoyed their earlier music, I wasn’t a fan of the Sargent Pepper era. And I still preferred the Beach Boys. 

Had the internet been a thing back then I can’t imagine myself commenting on the Beatle posts coming across my feed, telling the world their music sucked and then saying something nasty about one or more of the band members.  Maybe if one of them had done something horrible, but not if they are just living their lives, making their music. Why be snarky about someone I have never met? Who never did anything to me, and as far as I know, never hurt anyone?

Disliking someone’s music—especially a successful musician—does not mean their music is bad. It’s a ridiculously arrogant take to assume your taste in music is the definitive critique. I’m an author and I have readers who love my books, and readers who don’t care for them. Heck, it’s possible some people hate them. But so what? Everyone has different tastes in books and music.

And just because I never cared for the Sargent Pepper era, I can still appreciate and respect the talent of the Beatles and recognize their enormous contribution to music.  

This is where I come to Taylor Swift.  Until about three years ago, I hadn’t paid much attention to Swift or her music. I was still listening to musicians like Elton John, James Taylor, and the Beach Boys. 

But then I joined TikTok about three years ago, and I started paying attention to Swift and her music–especially the lyrics. While I won’t call myself a Swifty, I love some of her songs. I agree with the Swifties and many music critics, Taylor Swift is an extremely talented entertainer and songwriter. She’s also one hell of a businessperson. 

She has also proven to be an exemplary employer, considering the significant bonuses she has given to her staff. To the communities who welcome her concerts, she leaves behind generous food bank donations. And to her fans, she sets the example of kindness, inclusivity, and community.

And yet, Taylor Swift has some of the most vitriol haters on the internet who love to leave snarky comments about her. It isn’t just anonymous trolls trash talking, its people like Megyn Kelly and Elon Musk. Why? What bad thing did Taylor Swift ever do to them?

Is it because Swift didn’t want to endorse an adjudicated rapist and felon for president? It seemed like a smart call to me, considering Trump broke his oath of office on day one, proving he has no business in the White House.

Is it because Swift ignored Musk’s offer to give her a baby? An utterly gross and disgusting tweet for Musk to have made.

Some haters take issue with her billionaire status and claim she doesn’t give enough, ignoring all she regularly donates, while at the same time defending Elon Musk for his lack of generosity, insisting he has every right to spend his money as he wants.

One criticism from haters is the claim she is only successful because she had help from a rich dad. While I’m sure her parent’s support helped her—as all of us creatives are helped by support given to us by families—it is her talent and hard work that propelled her career to the heights it reached.  Even a favored child of Elon Musk could only go so far in a music career with limited talent. Ironically, someone whose career is not dependent on writing or musical talent, like Trump, would probably never have gotten rich without funding from a rich parent. But those haters of Swift ignore that truth.

An especially ridiculous complaint is that most of her songs are about heartbreak. According to Ai, 30-50% of pop songs are about heartbreak. So what is the problem? Is it just because it’s Taylor Swift? Or because she’s a woman? Also, they bitch that she only writes songs about her breakups, often claiming she’s self-absorbed, with a touch of slut shaming thrown in. I believe this bashing comes from a misogynist lens, as do many of the other negative things said about Swift.

Writers—including songwriters—typically find inspiration from their life experiences. And it may be something we write about decades later. One of Taylor’s gifts is the ability to write a song that her fans see themselves in. Her critics bitch Taylor is writing songs that are all about Taylor, yet Swifties see it different—Taylor gives them songs to which they can relate. 

And where is the slut shaming for the male musicians? 

Hey, you can hate her music, that is your prerogative. However, there are a lot of very popular musicians whose music I don’t care for, yet I don’t feel compelled to go on social media and leave trash talk comments in threads discussing those musicians. 

And I am not talking about legitimate critical discussions about music—done without malice. There is a place for critical reviews. It is like book reviews. It is one thing to leave a negative book review on someplace like Amazon, and another to make it a point to trash talk an author or their books in every post that comes across your social media, letting the world know you hate their books and anyone who does enjoy them has no taste. Makes me think of the expression, “Don’t yuck someone else’s yum.”  

It’s not just her music these haters have an issue with, it is the person. But what exactly has Taylor Swift done to deserve such vitriol hurled at her personally?

The truth is none of it is really about Taylor Swift; it’s about her haters. Their comments are not telling us anything about Swift, they are telling us about the person leaving the comment. And just what are they exposing about themselves? 

I am a troll. I just like to talk shit, so people pay attention to me.

Successful women make me feel like a loser.

I want her.

Smart women make me feel dumb.

Talented women make me feel bad about myself.

It should be me, not her!

She needs to stop giving such generous bonuses to her crew, because I look like a jerk when I don’t do the same.

Successful, beautiful, unmarried, talented women irritate the hell out of me.

I’m so jealous of her I could scream.

Her success threatens me.

I hate women.

Her success makes me so angry!

Meanwhile, Taylor Swift is out there living her best life, doing what she loves, spreading kindness, bringing joy to millions of fans, and positively contributing to society. Heck, maybe I am a Swiftie after all.