Time flies—faster with each year…

I graduated from high school almost fifty-four years ago. Like many Boomers, I keep in touch with some of my high school friends through Facebook, yet even Boomers seem to be using that platform less and less these day.  Some of my closer friends from high school I’ve stayed in touch with beyond Facebook—periodic visits, letters, emails, a rare phone call. 

I’ve one friend who I was especially close with during my senior year of high school. He was part of our journalism group. When Don and I had our restaurant,  this friend would stop by for dinner when he was in town visiting his dad. Later, when Don and I were in real estate, we’d meet for dinner or lunch when he was in Havasu and would exchange an occasional message through Facebook.

But then time does what time does, and the years slipped away and we lost touch. It had been about ten years since we talked, and he didn’t seem to be using Facebook anymore.  I eventually made an assertive effort to reconnect. Finally, I located his new email address, sent him a long email, and he returned in kind, catching me up on his life over the last decade.

I intended to write him back, but a few weeks later our life was turned upside down when the care facility  mom had been living at was abruptly closed by the state, and she was moved to another facility in Oregon City. With my attention focused on Mom, I didn’t get around to writing that letter.

Time slipped by, and I would periodically think of my friend, reminding myself I needed to write back. Each time I thought about writing my brain seemed to be telling me it had been about five months since I’d receive his email.

I sat down the other day to write that email, and before doing so, pulled up the email he had sent me, planning to respond to it. When I did, I realized, it had been far more than six months since I had heard from him—it  had been a little over two years…two years.

That’s the thing about time when you reach my age. That conveyer belt of life starts going faster and faster the longer we live, until finally it’s going so fast you know you might fall off at any moment. 

I did write that letter. While I was initially shocked it had been two years since I received his email, I wasn’t particularly surprised. One reason, I have been giving life a great deal of thought over the last few months. Part of it was turning seventy-one in November, and part of it was dealing with recent losses; while understanding I was entering the last leg in my journey.

My last Haunting Danielle book came out the end of November, and I fully intended to take the next few months off from writing, while knowing I would be starting my next Haunting Danielle book in March 2026.  But that writing hiatus didn’t quite happen.

On December 5th, 2025, I started writing a new book. This one wasn’t fiction, but an autobiography of sorts, while speaking primarily to aspiring authors. Since our daughter’s family wouldn’t be coming up for Christmas, and we’d be spending a quiet Christmas with just our son and daughter-in-law, it wasn’t like I had an extensive Christmas to-do list.

I wrote every day, and when done, I sent it off to an author friend, asking if I should publish the book. She read the book, told me I should publish it, and then made some constructive criticisms. I took her criticisms to heart, did some re-writing, and sent it off to another group of beta readers.

I don’t have a publishing date set yet. When it comes back from the beta readers, there will be more rewriting, editing, and then it will go off to the editor before publishing.  But I won’t be working on the project again until after The Ghost and Family Secrets is released at the end of May.

But I do have a title and a cover I wanted to share. My photograph used in the cover (above) of Write On: An Author’s Journey, was taken the summer between my junior and senior year of college, during a road trip my sister, Lynn, and I took up to Oregon.  The next summer, days after graduating from California State University of Fullerton, with a BA in Communications, I married Don. We celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary in June of this year.

Why the Dog and the Goat matters

A hunter I know told me when he took his son hunting for the first time and the son killed an animal, the son cried.

Was the father angry at his son? Did he berate him and call him weak? No. He told his son he would have been worried if he hadn’t showed some emotion, if it didn’t bother him. 

Personally, I am not a hunter. And if I had to kill animals before I could eat them, I would probably be a vegetarian. But I am not a vegetarian. I am carnivorous. So, it would be hypocritical  of me to go on an anti-hunting rant.

In some ways, hunting is probably a more humane way to source meat as opposed to how livestock is often raised. The exception would be hunters who fail to make a clean shot, and the animal flees and suffers a slow death.

But this article is not about that. This article is about what is in the head of the person aiming the gun at the animal. When they pull the trigger, do they do it because they enjoy the power, the high they get knowing the life of that animal is in their hands? Do they get a rush after the kill, where it feels good and they want to kill more?

Or perhaps the hunter has something in common with me—in common with people who have a desire to meet some of their basic needs as our ancestors did. While I don’t kill the food I eat, I enjoy growing it from seeds. I enjoy walking to my garden and harvesting the lettuce for my evening’s salad as opposed to buying it at the grocery store. Growing it takes more work, and if I am honest, can cost more money—at least in the beginning. But I believe it satisfies something in me, in the same way some people feel when they have a freezer full of meat—meat they didn’t buy at the store, meat they processed themselves, meat that didn’t involve the cruelty often found commercially.

Native Americans are just one of the many cultures that perform ceremonies or rituals for animals they hunt to show respect for the animals. 

Now, let’s talk about killing a pet.

Many of us were gutted in our childhood after reading the book, “Old Yeller,” or watching the movie. After the beloved family dog was attacked by a rabid animal, the owner was forced to shoot his dog—he had no other option. We all cried.

We’ve all watched movies where a horse is seriously injured and its owner is forced to shoot the animal. It’s not something they wanted to do, but they must do. And it’s certainly not something they ever want to do again.

When I was a teenager and lived at Havasu Palms, one of our cats, Walter, was seriously injured.(Yes, the cat was named after Dad, because his fur color matched Dad’s hair color) We were almost two hours from the closest vet, and there was nothing the vet could do for Walter, aside from euthanasia.  My father made the decision to handle the situation himself and not allow the cat to suffer a minute longer.  Dad took his gun and shot Walter. The act devastated Dad. He cried and said he never wanted to do that again.

There is another pet owner, one who holds a position of power in our government. In many ways, she holds the power of life and death over Americans.

In her book she writes about how she proudly shot their family dog, Cricket. Was Cricket injured? Suffering? Rabid? Cricket’s crime was being a poorly trained dog. And whose responsibility is it to train a dog?

Cricket’s owner made the decision to execute the dog for her own failing. What responsible pet owner releases their untrained over-excited dog around someone else’s chickens?  I imagine my Danny, a rambunctious, often excitable mini-Assie, who was about Cricket’s age when he died, may have done the same thing if I released him on a bunch  of chickens. And who would be at fault? Me. 

After Cricket’s execution, did his owner feel sadness, as the boy I mentioned in the first of this post? Did she cry like my Dad did, and swear she never wanted to do that again?

Nope. She liked the feeling. The rush. She wanted to experience it again, so she decided to execute the family goat. She didn’t like the goat. The goat’s crime? Acting like a typical goat. 

She was so proud of shooting two family pets that she sincerely thought she had done something brag worthy, so she included the story in her biography. She apparently didn’t even take pause after learning her neighbor had been horrified over what she had done, instead she spoke about his reaction as if it was an amusing anecdote.

I sincerely believe there is something deeply wrong with any person who behaves as she did. Studies have shown that engaging in animal cruelty or displaying pleasure when killing animals, is the first sign of someone who later goes on to commit more heinous acts, acts aimed against people

A person like that should never be allowed in a position of power in our government.

Time and Age

I was twenty-five years old when our first child was born. My grandma Madeline died that same year; she was 73 years old at the time. That twenty-five year old me thought 73 was far into the future. After all, it was almost three times the number of years I had already lived in my lifetime. 

Funny how our perception of age and years change as we get older.

My mother lived much longer than Grandma Madeline. For one thing she took better care of herself. Grandma had lived a sedentary life and smoked for as long as I knew her. Mom lived to age 96; her final years spent lost in Dementia.

In twenty-five years, I will be the same age as Mom was when she died—if I live that long.

Twenty-five years ago, it was 2001. The same year the Twin Towers were hit. The same year Don and I lost our restaurant and had to rebuild our lives. It was also our daughter’s first year of college, and she was still living at home with us.

Maybe to some that sounds like a lifetime—in the same way twenty-five years seemed like a lifetime to me when I had my first child.  

But now? 

2001 feels more like a yesterday.  All the cliches come to mind: In the blink of an eye. Gone in a heartbeat. Quick as a flash. Where did the time go? In a New York minute. The years fly by. Time flies when you are having fun. Time waits for no one… 

I am not trying to sound macabre. I am simply reflecting  and facing the reality of the time I might have left in this lifetime. 

Death doesn’t scare me because I sincerely believe my time here is simply part of my journey. However, that doesn’t mean I am anxious to move on or ready to go.

Sometimes I feel as if I am standing by an open doorway watching the people I love rush by me, busy in their daily lives. I smile as they pass me by, happy to see they seem healthy, happy, and well loved.

As they rush by, they might give me a quick wave, a nod, or blow me a kiss. Sometimes one shouts back that soon we can spend more time together. Sometimes I’m the one who shouts it to them as they pass by.

But I know that from now to “soon” is much closer than they realize, and the time beyond that is shorter still. 

(Above photo: Bobbi and her oldest child.)