charlie kirk | Bobbi Ann Johnson Holmes

There is a famous quote that starts with, “First they came for the socialists, and I did not speak out, because I was not a socialist.” It ends with, “When they came for me—there was no one left to speak for me.”

Recent poll numbers show more and more Americans disapprove of Trump’s second term. One voting bloc that shows a steep decline is with Hispanic voters. I’m not surprised, considering how this administration has handled the ICE raids.

While many marginalized groups feel this administration is “coming for them,” the diehard MAGA base continues to support Trump. I suspect one reason is they don’t believe anyone is coming for them. But some in that group, Boomer MAGAs in particular, might feel different in the near future, as it seems they may now be coming for the Boomers.

The other day I watched a podcast with conservative commenter and former Fox host, Tucker Carlson, and Charlie Kirk, a right-wing political pundit and cofounder of Turning Point USA, discussing—or should I say bashing—Boomers. They weren’t holding back on how they felt about Boomers. To put it simply, they hate us. They see Boomers as the source of all society’s problems.

It was enlightening watching Tucker turn on his previous audience from Fox. Now, I am not saying all Boomers watch Fox (I don’t) but Fox News has an older average age demographic compared to other news networks. At one point, Tucker called his onetime audience at Fox News repulsive, narcissist, idiots, and called them the worst, horrible people, and he unabashedly claimed to hate them.

Carlson and Kirk didn’t pull any punches. It made me think of a recent news clip I saw of White House Deputy Chief of Staff, Stephen Miller, who, when speaking out about DC protestors, called them a bunch of aging hippies, and told the Boomers to go home and take a nap. Although at one point, I believe he said they were ninety, which is not a Boomer, but the Silent Generation. Yet , I suspect most “old people” get tossed into the Boomer category these days.

There has been a lot of Boomer hate on social media, and while some criticisms might be valid, I don’t think these swells of Boomer hate are necessarily organic, it might be strategic. Carlson and Kirk’s anti-Boomer tirade gave validation to those in younger generations feeling frustrated at the state of today’s economy and environmental concerns, enforcing what many of them believe, is that the Boomers caused all of today’s problems.

And why did I say this wave of Boomer hate from the right might be strategic as opposed to organic? It’s an age-old tactic: demonize a group, tell the people a certain group is the reason for your problems.

But why the Boomers, if a good portion of them support the current regime? For one thing, my generation is dying off, and the younger generation is the growing voter base for those currently in charge. They don’t really need us anymore—and we are a financial liability.

For example, sixty percent of elderly people in nursing homes are on Medicaid. Medicaid has just been cut, and I am already hearing stories of families being informed their elderly family member will have to move in a few months, because unless they can pay the hefty monthly bill they can’t stay because Medicaid will no longer be covering the care.

Kicking someone’s grandma out of the care home onto the street has historically been perceived as politically incorrect. Yet if younger generations see these faceless elderly people as evil parasites, they might not put up such a fuss at talks of cutting Medicaid—or Medicare—or Social Security.

Those are all social programs that benefit aging and elderly members of our population. They are programs the right has been wanting to get rid of for a long time. If they can convince younger voters that old people don’t deserve the care, then it’s easier to dismantle. Plus, it sways the younger voters to their side by validating their feelings about the Boomer generation.

It’s a little like convincing the population that the members of the LGBTQ community are destroying society. It makes it easier to get rid of DEI, shut down programs that cost money, like suicide prevention, healthcare and government resources for the LGBTQ community, while garnering the votes from those who have been convinced the LGBTQ community is the cause of society’s problems.

It wasn’t until I joined TikTok about three years ago that I realized I had been raised in a bubble for most of my life. I had never stepped into far-right Christian spaces, where the women are taught to submit to their husbands, and girls who showed their legs and shoulders were held responsible for the actions of boys.

My parents never taught me that boys were superior to girls. They paid for my college education—back during a time when it was affordable. Had I been one of those women who discovered the man they married was abusive, my parents would never have told me I needed to try being a better wife. Hell no, my daddy would have never stood by while someone abused one of his daughters.

Dad had been raised by his grandparents and regularly attended a fundamental Christian church as a child. As an adult, he was an agnostic who said the Bible was written by smart men trying to control people. Mom was raised Christian Science and after she married Dad, she stopped going to church, started going to doctors, and sporadically sent my sister and me to Christian Science Sunday school, where we learned about a loving God, not one who we needed to fear.

Now back to TikTok, and why I said I was raised in a bubble. When first exploring the platform, I stumbled upon videos of people deconstructing. They were typically Mormons and Evangelical Christians. And once you’ve watched a few of those videos, the algorithm kicks in.

For a perspective on where I am coming from, I am a Boomer, yet some born the same year as me (1954) call themselves Generation Jones. I have only one sibling, a sister who I’m close to. Growing up, Mom always said Dad only wanted girls. Now that I am much older, I wonder if that is true or just something Mom said to make us feel good about ourselves. However, once I asked Dad if he ever regretted not having a son to carry on his last name. He laughed and said there are enough Johnsons out there; it wasn’t a problem.

While Dad was of the generation that believed classes like Home Economics was for girls, and Auto Shop for boys, it didn’t stop him from teaching me how to change a tire when I got my first car, nor did it keep him out of the kitchen. Dad was typically the one who cooked the main courses of our holiday meals, and while I remember him making homemade pies, I can’t remember Mom ever making one.

When I hear on TikTok how pastors in conservative churches teach the young girls about keeping their shoulders covered and hemlines lengthen, so as not to temp the boys, I remember how I spent my summers as a teenager, working in my family’s marina on Lake Havasu. I pumped gas for boats, waited on customers in our small lake-side country store, scooped minnows and waterdogs, and dumped boxes of redworms and night crawlers out to make sure they were alive before selling them to fishermen—all the while wearing a bikini. Hey, it was Havasu with summer temperatures well over a hundred, and the old store only had a swamp cooler, which meant we had to jump off the docks into the lake periodically during the day to cool off.

Despite my skimpy attire, I managed to graduate from high school without having sex, although I kissed my share of boys. Hey, I liked to kiss, and it was the sixties and seventies. My point being, I wasn’t raised to feel ashamed of my body, yet I was taught there were consequences for my actions, and since I intended to go to college, getting pregnant was not on my agenda. Marriage was also not on my immediate to-do-list. Unlike what right wing podcaster Charlie Kirk yammers on about regarding young women needing to find a husband, I didn’t go to college to find a husband. I went to get an education. When I did decide to marry my husband, it was because he was the person I wanted to spend my life with, not just because I wanted to get married.

Growing up, during my first thirteen years, Mom was a traditional stay at home mom (SAHM). She took care of the home and helped Dad in his general contracting business. Yet, unlike how I hear SAHM described by some of the younger generations on social media, Dad didn’t treat Mom like a child. They were partners. The money he earned was theirs, and they never taught me I needed to “submit” to my husband someday.

In today’s current political climate, we are seeing the prominent platforming of far-right “MAGA” Christians. One of these is Joel Webbon, a Christian Nationalist pastor from Texas. He talks about how his wife needs to ask his permission before she can read a book. Basically, he treats her like a child.

Maybe it’s the absurdity of it all for me. I can’t imagine my mom ever asking Dad for permission in what she could read. And my husband would look at me like I had lost my mind if I asked for his permission to read a specific book.

Plus, Webbon is a young whippersnapper from this old woman’s perspective. The boy is younger than my daughter, and he presumes to be such a wise sage that he can guide the women in his life. Malarkey.

I believe—and I am serious, not just being a smart ass—that wanting to submit to your husband, or wanting your wife to submit to you is nothing more than a sexual kink wrapped up in a false interpretation of the scriptures. While I don’t kink shame—what goes on between two consenting adults is their business—when people like Webbon or that women-shouldn’t-vote-Pet-Hegseth’s-Pastor-Doug-Wilson, wants to legislature their fetishes into the mainstream I have a problem.

Now, if you want to argue I am wrong about this being a false Biblical interpretation, stop. It doesn’t really matter whose interpretation is accurate. The last time I looked, the First Amendment prohibits our government from establishing a religion. Therefore, if your reason for wanting to take away women’s right to vote is based on your interpretation of the Bible, I suggest you reread the First Amendment.

However, if you believe a penis means a person possesses more intelligence and wisdom than a person with a uterus, you are in fact an idiot. There are brilliant and capable men—just as there are brilliant and capable women. There are also incompetent and mentally deficient men and women.

So yeah, I can’t imagine telling my granddaughter that someday she needs to submit to her husband, and he is the head of the household, the one to make all the final decisions.

And you know what? I equally would not tell my grandson that someday his wife needs to submit to him, and he needs to make the final decisions.

That is equally damning to both men and women. I remember back before I was married, thinking it was not fair for men to shoulder the financial responsibility of the family alone. I never wanted to marry someone so he could take care of me. I only wanted to marry when I found a partner I could spend my life with. Fortunately, I found that.

If you treat your spouse like a child—if you allow your spouse to treat you as a child, well, that is just weird. And kind of creepy. But if you are both of legal age, it is your business. But please, stop trying to push that on the rest of the country. It’s just icky.

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