I’ve been having difficulty falling asleep at night since I learned the SCOTUS is preparing to toss out Roe vs Wade. Why should I care? I’ve never had an abortion, nor had to consider one. I’ve never had a miscarriage or a pregnancy that threatened my life. Our two children were both planned and received in love. 

My childbearing years are behind me.  But that doesn’t mean I lack empathy for all the girls and women adversely impacted by this proposed ruling.

This is where the pro-life people ask, “Don’t you have empathy for all the babies who are murdered?”

The thing is…calling them “babies” is disingenuous. 90% of abortions take place before 12 weeks. At 12 weeks the fetus weighs about ½ ounce and its brain is just developing. It won’t be until the last months of gestation that the cerebral cortex develops, which is responsible for things like thought and feelings. When life support is removed from an adult or child, it’s not the heartbeat, it’s the brain function that determines life. Late term abortions are typically for medical reasons, such as in saving the life of the mother. 

So stop with the hyperbole and exaggeration. Pro-choice is NOT about killing babies. It’s not even about pro-abortion. It’s about giving a girl or woman autonomy over her own body. And it’s not just her body you are controlling when you force a woman to grow that ½ ounce embryo (if under 11 weeks) or fetus (11+ weeks), you are controlling her entire life and finances. Who is paying for her extra medical bills? Loss of income? Possible job loss? Who will support her when she is too sick to go to work? (I was sick for months with my first pregnancy.)

I know some people see the answer as making the father pay for her expenses while pregnant. While I agree they should, I fear that will bring greater risk to the pregnant woman. 

According to an online article on Desert News, “A recent study in the journal Obstetrics & Gynecology found that homicide is the leading cause of death among pregnant women and women who are six weeks postpartum. Indeed, homicide exceeds other leading causes of maternal mortality by more than twofold.” 

Pregnancies also come with medical risks. Our country has one of the highest mortality rates for pregnant women in a developed country. And the risk—threat of death—is even greater for young girls. 

To those people who claim to care so much about “babies” (which aren’t really babies yet) why don’t they care about the girls already born? Such as the ten year old girl who has been raped, and who will already be suffering emotionally from her trauma, but now is told she must carry the  ½ ounce bunch of cells until it grows into an actual baby, possibly risking her own life and health.

For those out there who say women should be using birth control if they don’t want to get pregnant, I ask, why are there people in the GOP trying to make laws that take away birth control? Plus, birth control certainly does not help a rape victim, or someone whose birth control failed. Not even a vasectomy is 100 percent.

As for late term abortions, a typical woman does not carry a fetus for seven months and just decide to abort it. Yes, there are some wackos out there who might do something horrendous, but that is a different issue. We are talking apples and oranges here.

Personally, I totally understand (and agree with some) reservations on late term abortions. Unless it is to save the life of the mother, or there is something severely wrong with the fetus, then I can’t imagine a reason. Once a fetus evolves to a point he or she could survive out of the womb—with a thinking brain—then I don’t find the term baby hyperbole. 

I will wrap this up by dragging religion into the discussion—since religion got us here in the first place.

I call myself a Webster Christian. That’s my own made-up term that simply means I am a Christian by one of the definitions Merriam-Webster gives: “One who professes belief in the teachings of Jesus Christ.”

In my personal religious belief, I believe our body is nothing more than the vessel that holds our spirit. Our spirit was there before the body—and will be there after the body dies.  The spirit’s life is not dependent on one specific woman growing a vessel in her body for it, because it already exists.

Now you can think my belief is silly, but it is my belief. And the last time I heard, freedom of religion was being upheld by the SCOTUS, even if Roe isn’t.   

6 comments on “I didn’t want to blog about this…but…

  1. DeAna

    Bobbi, I agree with you totally! I couldn’t carry a child to full term knowing it was brought about from an anger rape and not knowing what kind of disease the monster might have infected me with as well. It needs to be a clear choice made by the woman. It’s her body. No one else! Why is it men in power think they know what’s best for women?? They don’t have a clue as to what a woman’s body goes through for a pregnancy!!! I don’t tell them how to adjust their body parts so don’t go telling me what I can or cannot do with mine!!

  2. Janine van Rooij

    Thank you for this! So much less child abuse and therefore less traumatized adults because of legal abortion, because children will be born when they are really wanted, and not forced on women by rape, whether by their spouse or by a random man. I myself would think very carefully before i would get an abortion, but you know, if you ever have watched the BBC series Call the midwife, set in the 1960s when abortion was still illegal, you have probably seen what harm illegal abortion can do. Infertility, sickness, infection that can lead to death. And that will be encouraged when abortion becomes illegal.

  3. Erica L Alderman

    Wow, thank you so much for explaining this in a way people can understand. I am not able to carry a baby to term. Several doctors have told me this. If I were to get pregnant, the fetus would die within 4-5 months of conception. I am very strict with my birth control method. If Row is overturned, essentially, I would be forced to carry this “baby”, knowing it would eventually die and there is nothing I can do about it. I never could have imagined this would be the reality in America.

  4. Barbara Daley

    Thank you. You eloquently said what I have been unable to. I applaud every word.

  5. Susie

    They should care so much for the babies that have already been born and the mothers that bore them instead of taking away all aid and support.
    I agree with you 100%

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