Love, loss, struggles and the power of family…

flowers DorisTo say 2014 has been a challenge for my husband and me would be an understatement. We spent most of the summer dealing with Don’s knee infection which involved emergency surgery and six week of in-home IV treatment—three times a day administered by yours truly.

Just when Don was able to start enjoying life again we went to visit our daughter and her family in their new Sacramento home only to cut our trip short when my mother-in-law, Doris, was hospitalized. After two weeks in the hospital, and two surgeries, Doris passed away in intensive care, while Don held one of her hands and I held the other.

In spite of the fact Doris was 86, her death came as an unexpected shock to us. Her father had made it to just a few months shy of his 100th birthday and the day before her death we were told she’d be released from the hospital in a few days and that physically she was doing well.

Doris lived in a little house on our property, and my mother (also 86) lives with us. Mom took Doris’ death especially hard—losing a lifelong friend from her own generation, whom she shared so many memories.

In the midst of planning Doris’ memorial service and settling her estate, I was diagnosed with stage two breast cancer. I’m having surgery the first part of December.

One thing I am reminded of through all of this is what a wonderful—seriously—truly remarkable—family I’ve been blessed with. Not just our two amazing adult children and their supportive and loving spouses, and our two grandchildren, but my mother, sister and all the extended family—like Don’s cousins on the Talbot side of the family, who are always there when we need them.

Doris’s memorial service proved to be a love fest as we were surrounded by friends and family, many of whom came a long way to be by our side—from Texas, Missouri, Montana, Oregon and California.

I will get through the breast cancer—not just because I’ve already been through cancer twice and lived to tell the tale (malignant olfactory nerve in 1978 and thyroid cancer in 2005) but because I’ve the love and support of such an amazing family. Plus, I’m stubborn as hell. Just ask Don.

In preparing for my battle I’m making a radical change to my diet, focusing on foods cancer hates and eliminating foods cancer loves—like sugar—from my diet. I’ll be working with doctors I trust to fight this battle, while at the home front doing all I can to starve those little bastard cancer cells.

This morning for breakfast I had a tossed green salad, Alaskan salmon, humus, cucumber slices and almonds. Was quite yummy.

I am also getting back to writing Haunting Danielle, Book 3 (with my alter ego Anna J. McIntyre) while working on my treadmill desk (which I am doing right now). I took several weeks off, but now time to get back to writing and taking care of myself. I’d hoped to release Haunting Danielle, Book 3 January 1, 2015, but  now I am shooting for sometime in January 2015.

If anyone can recommend some proven books on cancer fighting foods, please share!

Why I can’t be a book reviewer…

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The first obvious reason—I’m not very good at it. I suppose that’s not something I should admit, considering I write for a living. Although, most book reviews I’ve read—even from other authors—aren’t that terrific either.

Writers have varying skillsets—which may or may not include review writing. However, every once in a while I will stumble across a beautifully written book review and I long to stretch those writer’s muscles—but then I remember the other reason I can’t be a book reviewer: I won’t critique a book I dislike—because then I’d have to leave less than four stars.

These days I find it harder and harder to leave a bad book review—I just don’t have the heart to rip out another writer’s heart. This doesn’t mean I’ll blow sunshine under an author’s bloomers. I’ll simply pass on writing a review if I dislike a book.

Plus, I have little free time, and I’ll only finish a book I enjoy. Unless I’ve read the entire book I don’t think I should leave a review. So if you think about it, even if I was willing to leave one or two stars, I don’t have the time to read bad books.

If I aspired to be a book reviewer I’d have to be willing to leave a negative review when necessary—because if I didn’t, readers probably wouldn’t trust me. Of course, there might be a niche out there for a reviewer focusing solely on books to read as opposed to books to avoid.

Will the real Nick Russell please stand up.

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You can find just about anything over on eBay—like my paperback books. Be warned the prices are inflated. I found Havasu Palms, A Hostile Takeover on eBay, ranging from about $21 to over $35. Not sure why someone would buy it there, considering the price on Amazon is under $17.

I also noticed a used copy of Where the Road Ends, Havasu Palms Recipes and Remembrances. That one is $16.16 – but you can pick up a new copy at Amazon for $10. Actually, Amazon serves as the middleman on that book—I fulfill the order.

I don’t begrudge anyone trying to make an honest buck. If they can get someone to pay more for a second hand book, or resale a new one at an inflated price, then more power to them.

But one thing that does irritate me is when they misrepresent a book—or give false information. Over on eBay, bookseller Grand Eagle Resale is selling my friend, Nick Russell’s book, Big Lake. According to the author bio given by the reseller, Nick lives in Australia, and the rest of the bio is pretty colorful—he joined the British South Africa Police in 1975, served in Sinoia and Kariba, was in the mounted squad for the opening of parliament and transferred to some special branch until the cessation.

I imagine there is a Nick Russell out there that did that stuff—but he isn’t the same one who wrote Big Lake. The Nick Russell who wrote Big Lakes is a full time RVer—in the US not Australia. Ironically, that same bookseller is selling another one of Nick’s books, Dog’s Run—and they have the bio correct on that one!